Whose Will Is Strongest?

Over the weekend, we got "serious" about being done with dealing with toileting accidents.  Urine accidents have become rare but poop, well, it's rare that it's NOT an accident.  I mentioned in a post last week that Music Man had an accident at school which really seemed to get the ball rolling, so to speak. But it's not school's responsibility to get this done....it's mine.

We had to find something that would motivate our children to use the bathroom.  The answer to that question really is quite simple.....their phones or the computer.  However, taking this away from them makes things EXTREMELY hard on Dad and I.  But the time had come.  We needed to take that step. So, for the first poopy pants, no iPhone.  For the second, no iPod.  For the third, no computer.  And we were just PRAYING that there wouldn't be a fourth, because there was nothing left to take away.  And this would carry over from day to day (last thing was an accident on Saturday, no phone on Sunday).  However, once there was a success in the toilet, everything would be restored and we would start fresh.

During the week, for Music Man at least, things are relatively easy.  He "poops" shortly after coming home from school.  He's regular.  We can count on this almost every day.  So, when he comes home from school, we have snack, go into the bathroom and he does his thing.  Then he can have his phone.  But on the weekends, things are a bit more difficult.  He's NOT consistent about when he goes.  This (to us) is unsubstantiated proof that he is withholding during the school day because he doesn't want to deal with it at school.  He clearly has the control.

So, on Saturday morning, as soon as they go downstairs to play, Dad takes Music Man to the bathroom.  They try for a few minutes without success, so Dad resolves to take him again 30 minutes later.  By then, too late.  He pooped in his pants.  Oh, well.....bye bye phone!  Was Music Man happy about this.  ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!!!  Despite being warned numerous times, he was VERY angry about this change of events and how his weekend was going to progress.  But he eventually settled down.  Later that morning, once again, there was poop in his underwear.  Bye Bye iPod.  Now he's FURIOUS.  But he's determined to NOT let us win this fight.

For the rest of the weekend, we tried.  And for the rest of the weekend, so did he.  There was no successful potty trips.  And there was no return of the iPod or the iPhone.  And on Sunday night, he woke in the middle of the night and walked into the bathroom.  I was POSITIVE there would be some poop in the underwear, but there wasn't.  He just needed to pee and then went back to sleep (eventually).  And on Monday morning, before heading off to school, the stand off continued.  No poop in the potty, so no phone or pod.

But, come Monday afternoon, I don't think he could hold off anymore.  He pooped in the potty after school.  We did the same thing we did during the week last week.....come home, snack, potty, then play.  And that potty should include poop.  We have been successful on Monday and Tuesday of this week.  Today was very similar -- he came home from school and had his good strong poop after snack.  However, he did poop in his pants at school today.  Since we have established the policy of success means all privileges are returned, he didn't lose time with the phone.  However, if accidents continue at school, we will have to modify that part of our agreement.  I guess we are making progress.

I feel comfortable making this statement:  Music Man is poop-trained during the week.  He is unable (or unwilling) to anticipate the need to go, but he is regular enough that we can anticipate for him.  He is not yet fully trained as we have still not seen any successes during the weekend.  Hopefully, as he realizes that life is much happier when you are FULLY potty trained, he will take this leap soon.

On to the next saga......