Thursday, November 29, 2012
Progress Comes When You Least Expect It
I'm way behind in the stories that have been happening in our lives here. But I'm just starting in fresh again. Those stories, well, maybe I'll find another way to incorporate them here. But for now, we're just going to start with where we are right now.
On Tuesday, it finally happened. I got a phone call from school to tell me that Music Man had a toiletting accident. Since he was trained (well, urine trained) over President's Day weekend, we haven't had an accident at school. Apparently, I had never brought in long pants (he had plenty of shorts) and they needed these ASAP.
I had mentioned during Music Man's IEP Meeting that he was not yet "Poop Trained". In fact, he has never INTENTIONALLY released poop into the toilet. He showed no interest. And he never showed any indication that he was uncomfortable when he had an accident. I'm not sure if anyone in the room agreed that that last statement could be true, but they did take me at my word. Well, on Tuesday, when he had his accident, they realized that I was telling the truth. He truly just didn't care. He just sat there. He was able to completely ignore it. He didn't fidget. He didn't do anything to indicate that he was the one that the teachers were smelling, other than simply sitting there in his own poop.
Yesterday (Wednesday), his teacher sent him home with a social story. She found me outside the school waiting for dismissal and told me what they were starting to do. She was keeping her own copy of the social story at school and she informed me that, since he likes Oreo cookies, he wasn't allowed to have an oreo unless he successfully "Pooped on the Pot". This last bit threw me a bit.....I would have to follow this as well, and Oreos are his regular after-school snack. But, I agreed to go along with this regime and I figured we'll see what happens.
Before Music Man is allowed to go downstairs to play, he has to go to the bathroom (I don't know when he last goes at school and this way we are starting fresh with the timing). He had to urinate and that was no surprise. But after he was done, I asked if he needed to poop. I pointed out that, if he did put his "Poop in the Pot", he'd get a Double-Stuff Oreo cookie. He immediately decided it was worth trying. So, he sat on the toilet and was clearly putting in the effort. He asked for me to sing a song, which I gladly did. We went back and forth between the song and reading the social story. And, sure enough, he put his "Poop in the Pot"! 3 times actually.
After cleaning up, he got his Double-Stuff Oreo cookie and then went downstairs to play.
Today, when I pick him up from school, I intend to do the same thing. We will have snack (that isn't an Oreo) and when he goes to the bathroom prior to going downstairs to play, we will take the social story with us and we will try again. I will give him a smaller snack so, if he's successful, he can have his Double-Stuff Oreo without getting too much sugar, but I'll take the added sugar rush to have this whole thing behind us!
It's not like we've been complacent with the toilet training thing. But, just like in February where the breaking point was reached, I think that's what we are seeing right now....everyone has simply had enough. He needs to know that this is the way it's supposed to be and how it will be. And, thanks to his teacher, we figured out a way to convince him that we really mean it!